Our Adoption On Washington

The Sounds of the Adoption Process.

Do you hear it?

My fingers tapping.

The tick tocking of the clock.

That's called the sound of waiting.

That is currently where we are at in our adoption process of our Burkinabe princess or "Mia" as we call her.  Will Mia be her name? Only God knows, but until then it was much easier to give her a name so our "Mia" it is. 

At the end of October we completed our home-study process. This process took much longer then our non-hague home-study but we are thankful that it only took 3 months, some states have a much longer process. We mailed off our immigration approval paperwork the first of November and received the approval the first of January.  We had a few issues with the approval in which the officer put the wrong year on the approval and it kept arriving in the mail smeared with ink. We were finally successful in getting a clean, correct copy after 2 tries and a 2 week delay.  

Our dossier in now in the hands of the Burkina Faso government.  It has been since January 24th. 

Some people have asked where we are at in the process.  Here is the 6 step process to adopt from Burkina Faso.

1. Choose an Accredited Adoption Service Provider
2. Apply to USCIS to be found eligible to adopt
3. Be matched with a child by authorities in Burkina Faso
4. Apply to USCIS for the child to be found eligible for immigration to the United States and receive U.S. agreement to proceed with the adoption
5. Adopt (or Obtain Legal Custody) of child in Burkina Faso
6. Obtain a U.S. immigrant visa for your child and bring your child home

We are currently on step #3.  The Central Authority has our Dossier and is working on matching us with a child that based on that.  I have no idea how long this process usually takes. I can not tell you if our file has even been looked at yet.

This journey is more like searching in the dark for a light switch.  You know the switch is there, you know it's general location but you have no idea when your fingers are going to touch it. 

In the meantime, we are still raising money so when the time comes we have it on hand.  Abbey recently committed to raising her portion of her plane ticket to bring Mia home. She raised over $900 in a little over 2 weeks selling her peppermint patties, chocolate drizzled pretzels, and chocolate chip cookies. WOW!! She was stunned and overwhelmed but so grateful for this blessing.  She has approximately $600 more to raise but I'd say she's made a huge dent, wouldn't you! 

Soon we need to get started on the renovations of our 3rd floor attic.  We will be putting 2 bedrooms, one 3/4 bath and a play area for the kids on the 3rd floor which is currently an attic.  Each child is excited to have their own room and space.  There is A LOT to be done, including subfloor, wiring, plumbing, insulation, new window, heating, cooling...and the list goes on and on. I can't wait to get all of this completed so that we can start preparing Mia's bedroom.  I have it pictured in my mind and it's beautiful.

So soon, besides the sounds of fingers tapping, you'll hear hammers pounding and saws spinning.

and hopefully, sounds of glee as we see a picture of our daughter for the first time.

 

 

 

 

A New Path

Our new journey as a family of five has taken us down a new path.

A path that was hard to see, and sometimes hard for us to make the choice collectively to walk down.

But with much prayer and patience, we have chosen to link hands and journey down the path together. 

It started shortly after our arrival home with Danil.  Kevin and I went out for a small date.  I sat across the table from him, looked him in the eye and told him that I really felt that God was not done with us yet.  There was a little girl.

Somewhere.

I told him that I didn't know when or where but I wanted to let him know what I felt God was speaking to me.

 

Throughout our wait for God to speak to us, we encountered many signs that said "Now is not the time."  We were struggling to acclimate Danil into our family.  We knew that we had to create stability and security in this relationship.  A firm foundation was needed.  Another sign was not the whole family was on board.  Heck, there were times I was not on board.  Adoption is hard work and uncomfortable.  I questioned many times if I could do it again.

And "the" question came up again...you know the same one that was asked by our biological kids when we approached them about adopting Danil,

"Aren't we enough?"

"Why is God calling us to be uncomfortable, to sacrifice?"

"Why can't we just be comfortable?"

As a parent, these questions sting. But as a Christian, these questions are things we ask our father constantly if we are walking in his will.

The answer is "It's not about us."

We prayed for clarity, for an answer, and for a change of heart.

In May, our church sent Kevin and I to the Orphan Summit in Nashville with the hopes of figuring out how to start an orphan ministry in our church. It was an amazing experience. As we got up to leave a session, Kevin looked at me and said he was ready.  From that point he has been the driving force in this journey.

 

We were invited by some friends at church to meet with a spiritual counselor that was staying with them.  I was so skeptical. Kevin and I decided to just go meet with him.  It was an amazing experience.  He confirmed through God's word that we were journeying down the right path.  But where? My heart was so sad that I was unwilling to go to Ukraine again.  I can't.  I can't be away from my children for 36+ days again, especially Danil.  He's experienced so much trauma already.  I just couldn't.  So if not Ukraine, then where?  I had been searching.  I explored the processes in Bulgaria, Asian countries and the United States.  All were dead ends.  The spiritual counselor looked at me and asked me the question "Where?" I broke down. There are SO MANY, how do I choose?  How do I choose a child? The burden was too heavy for me.

He turned to Kevin. "Where?"  Kevin answered "Africa."

My heart sank. "Africa?"

In March, I attended an adoptive mom retreat.  In complete honesty, I was offended at this conference.  All the booths were promoting adoption from Africa.  My eyes had seen different. And my closed heart exclaimed "There are orphans all over the world, not just in Africa."

So I asked again "Africa, really?"

During our time with the counselor we also prayed that the hearts of our children, one child in particular, would change toward adoption.  The next day, I discussed our meeting with the counselor. This child was very intrigued by his words to us and exclaimed "Where are we going to get her?"

Praise God. 

Still skeptical that this was the right direction, I began looking for photo listing of children from Africa. Two little girls stood out.  So I inquired. They were from Burkina Faso, Africa. Where? Never heard of it. So I inquired some more.  Turns out its a small county in Northwest Africa about the size of Colorado just North of Ghana. The wait time is longer but the time in country is about 2 weeks so this fit my desire to not leave Danil for an extended period of time.

So God and I had a little talk. "Lord, if this is where you want us to go, you are going to have to be very clear...like a flashing sign or something."  God smiled.

In the meantime, we contacted an agency and started the initial steps. Our home study appointments were scheduled.

We received a phone call.  It was our neighbor of the last ten years.  Her home was going to sheriff sale in a little over a month.  We were stunned. We knew that times were hard for her.  She had experience the loss of a son by suicide 6 years ago.  Since then we had witnessed a slow spiral downward. We did what we could for her.  We mowed her yard, took out her trash and hugged her as she cried.  We told her many times that if times got hard financially to let us know.  We had no idea it had gone this far. So Kevin and I spoke about our options.  We had always wanted to purchase her home if it became available because it is so close to our home.  It actually was part of our property until the 1940's when it was sold after the death of original owner.

 

My heart was so conflicted.  Was this a test?  Was I suppose to choose between a child and a house?  Did God want me to confirm where my treasure lied, with his will or with possessions?  I prayed, I cried and I sought counsel.  

In the meantime, our neighbor came over and sat at our table.  She was in tears.  She had been through so much in her life.  She was sure God had a plan for her life but she was so lost on what that was.  She started with a story.

"It's just a house, I don't care.  My life changed 40 years ago when I visited a friend in Africa. He wasn't really a good friend, more of an acquaintance. But while I was there I looked into the eyes of starving children and a house doesn't matter."

Kevin said "Oh really, what part of Africa."

 

She answered "Oh, it's a little county, not well known.  It was once called Upper Volta but now is called Burkina Faso."

I lost it.  I sobbed.  She looked at me with great concern and grabbed my hand.

I couldn't speak.  Here was my flashing sign.  

God is so good to meet us where we are at.

We proceeded with the purchase of her home.  We were told by many that it was a long shot.  That banks do not negotiate that fast and securing a mortgage would take a while.  So we surrendered it to God.  But I was still very conflicted.  You see the down payment for the house was the money we were planning on using for the adoption.  But Kevin had more faith.  He looked at me one day and said "Our God is bigger then this, he can accomplish both."

 

Well long story short, we closed on the house.  I wrote on the day of closing about our plans to purchase this home. A friend wrote that when we do God's will, he blesses us.  All this time I had been looking at this situation as a test, not a blessing.  Shame on me. 

So our home study is now complete.  Our family and church family pulled together helping us raise $3,000 in 3 weeks.  It was such a blessing.  We have paid for our home study, agency fee and commitment to the Burkina Faso program which has totaled $9,100 so far.  Adoption is not cheap but if you take the leap, God will provide abundantly.  He showed that to us in Danil's adoption and now in this adoption.  In a few months we will be required to pay another $4000. But that will be an exciting payment because our new little girl will be revealed.  All we know is that she was wonderfully and beautifully knitted by God and that she is loved far more then we could ever imagine.

So please join with our family as we hold hands down this path, chosen and directed by God. 

How much?

I often get questions on how much it will cost to adopt this sweet little boy. 

 

The anwswer between $20,000 and $25,000. 

It's alot I know but put it in perspective . . .

How much is a new car? or a used car for that matter?

Here is the break down of our expenses:

Homestudy  $1525  (paid)

USCIS, I-600a and finger prints  $1000 (paid)

Promise Trust for Danil $1000 (paid)

Love Gift to RR and Voice of Hope $275 (paid)

Dossier prep/fingerprints $350 (paid)

Flights estimate   $5000 (paid through donations + painting job)

Facilitator fee  $9000 ($148 raised so far)

First Trip Lodging estimate $1700

2nd Trip Lodging estimate $1100

1st Trip Food/supplies estimate $450

2nd Trip Food/supplies estimate $250

Passports $600

Visa and Medical for Danil $550

Transportation $2000

Orphanage Donation $1000 (paid)

But that is just to get him home! 

Then comes a whole wardrobe of clothes, bedroom furniture, a booster seat, a few toys of his own, medical visits and medication. . . all the normal childhood expenses. 

But Danil is worth every penny! 

The money we have spent so far was saved to buy a new used vehicle but we put it in perspective and decided to save a child instead. 

We've had reservations about seeking donations.  Why? Because this is something we chose to do.  We chose to follow God's Will for our lives.  We chose to step out and obey him.  But we have found out that we can not do this alone.  That is why we are committed to work for your donations.  We don't expect the money to fall into our laps or to find a money tree in the backyard (although that would be pretty handy). I have already been working (painting and sewing) to get donations. 

Kevin and I thank you from the bottom of our hearts to all those who have opened their hearts to give Danil Hope!  

 

Why?

Why?

Let me tell you why . . .

Because there are 100,000 orphans in Eastern Europe

 Only 20% of the children are orphans due to the death of a parent

Only 20% have a chance to be adopted after age 5

At Age 16, they "graduate" from the orphanage . . homeless & alone

27% will find jobs

10% will commit suicide before age 18

60% of the girls will be lured into prostitution

70% of the boys will become harden criminal

so I ask you . . .  Why not?

EVERY child is WORTH helping, WORTH loving,  & WORTH sacrifice

Once our eyes are opened, we can't pretend we don't know what to do. God, who weighs our hearts and keeps our souls, knows that we know, and holds us responsible to act (Proverbs 24:12)

If you can't bring a child home, donate to help a family who can or donate to a child that needs a forever family.

Visit www.reecesrainbow.org  and make a donation toward a child with special needs find a home

Or visit our sponsorship page http://reecesrainbow.org/sponsorkrulik and help us bring Danil home.